why people are not helping each other?

What prompts us to ignore the distress of others? We all found ourselves in situations-times we saw someone taunted and didn't intervene; when we drove past a car that broke down, assuming that another driver would pull over to help.

We saw a young man slumped on the pavement, and we didn't go over to check if he was all right. We 're witnessing a problem; consider doing something, then respond by doing ... Nothing. .....Nothing. Something is holding us back. So why don't we help you in these situations?

Researchers have studied the phenomenon and attribute the occurrence of passive by-standing (known as the by-stand effect) to a "diffusion of responsibility": when people believe there are other witnesses to an emergency, they feel a less personal responsibility to intervene. They assume that someone else will help. The end result is altruistic inertia. Studies also say that we still do not act because of the "responsibility misunderstanding."

Where bystanders refuse to support those in distress because they do not want to be mistaken because of the distress. What's more, bystanders often don't interfere with an emergency because the emotions of the people around them are deceived. We succumb to what is known as 'pluralistic ignorance'—the propensity to misinterpret the peaceful attitude of each other as an indication that no emergency is actually taking place. There are strong societal norms that perpetuate this—the 'Keep relaxed and carry on' mindset is one such thing. We stick to such norms because it is humiliating to get into a panic when there is no real risk!

This can complicate the problem, whether or not we are helping someone else out is how confident we are about those emotions. Some people are very empathetic and supportive in showing concern and compassion for others but have very little empathy when coping with the indignation of someone else. Some close in the face of aggression and misconduct and some are totally cut off from their emotions.

While passivity can simply be the first reaction to perceived danger and a prevention strategy engaged in the hope that the problem will go away, it can also be something more sinister; say, when someone passively or actively engages in hostilities they witness. The reasons people join forces with the aggressors are manifold-they may fear punishment if they do not agree with, the scheme; they may bear grudge against the targeted person or persons, or they may feel no real connection with them, and they may be shut out of concern for them because of this. Or even sadder, they may go along with the situation because of boredom, or revel in a sense of shame! In such cases, apathy is not

just a lack of sympathy, but a betrayal of it.

Less troubling but no less socially damaging is an unwillingness to support someone because of ill-health, even because we have witnessed the trauma of witnessing horrific acts even events. Distressing incidents like a sudden illness, bereavement, violence and injuries can be devastating and otherwise attract our attention and resources.

Although this kind of apathy is usually only temporary in duration, after the trauma of this kind, people can feel exhausted and emotional and distressed for weeks, sometimes months. If this happens to you, it's best not to be tough on yourself — your feelings will eventually return.

What can we do to turn from passive bystander to active helper?

Being passive can be an obstacle to a full life of life. It keeps us from forming alliances and feeling connected with other people. It can lead us into a lonely state, one that keeps us from doing what we can to help others and, in turn, keeps us from asking others for help. Those who actively help others are thought to share some personality traits; a stronger sense of attachment to others and a sense of responsibility for the welfare of others. Researchers have found that these trends are commonly instilled in childhood helpers to demonstrate tolerance, care, and empathy.

So is there anything you can do to kick to touch that inertia? Here are our five top tips:

1. Connect with others who value empathy and cooperation

We need the support and encouragement of others who value sympathy, so go out and find like-minded people. There's a lot out there – you just need to find them!

2. Be mindful and alert to apathy in yourself and others.

Avoid hanging around with apathetic people. Be vigilant about what others say and don't say, and what they do and don't do. Ignore comments like, "No one else's mind, so why should I? "or people who tell you to" light up "or say" Who cares about it anyway? "Act on things that you are passionate about and concerned about.

3. Be more self-compassionate

Show yourself a little kindness every day should help you express your sympathy for others more easily.

4. Lead by example

Those who are not completely infected with apathy may be energized into action and follow your lead.

5. Don't wait for the prisoners, they can free themselves!

Don't hang up to free all the apathetic people around you. They might complain, or they might even try to block your actions. So instead of waiting for them to see things as you do, go ahead anyway and feel good that your little bit of good in the world can benefit others as well.

Then now, some good news-there is evidence to indicate that the more aware we are of phenomena such as obligation diffusion and the bystander effect, the less likely we are to participate in them.

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